To rlefebvr

[willcowskitz]

I don't know why the topic "Thumb over question" was locked. I didn't get to reply to post that referred me directly, and that would be highly frustrating. So I just dumped it here:


A few points to make:

I do not think, nor would I like to think myself as an owner or moderator of this forum. The responsibility to freedom ratio would just be too high. Whenever I open my mouth, I do it as an autonomous individual that feels he has something to say, either from his own, or objective perspective, and who represents himself and himself only.

When a problem, especially if relatively minor, appears, I'd rather solve it myself as _a member_ of this forum - a person among others that just browses the site and uses it for achieving something easier than by himself, and at the same time helps others do the same thing. Some people, when they notice something that annoys them personally, immediately whine to an authority, which in this case would be the moderator of the board. Just because I am ready to put myself at stake to "solve" (yes, the way I was "solving" this problem is highly controversial regarding it's efficiency) the problem, rather than ignore it or delegate it to a higher authority, doesn't mean I'm looking for power fixes or growling to defend my territory. As I already said; I treat people according to how they act, and in this case their behaviour just caused me to explode. It was a reaction, and I allowed it to happen because whenever I'm dealing with people, I want to deal with the people themselves and not some static character via a translator such as the moderator. People generally love to backstab and be safe, or "tolerate" and wait for others to realize what they're doing wrong. The latter doesn't work in my experience, and the former is simply not my style.

If you knew me the least bit more, you'd know I'm ready to admit if I've acted in an exaggerated manner or simply made a mistake, and this is just what I'm doing here:  I admit that I overreacted.

Still, apart from the first paragraph of my last post, everything I said needed to be said, and I believe there are people who wanted to see it. Although I don't want the forum to turn into a sentimental crashing field of random feelings from mutually incompatible personalities, I also don't want it to promote mentality of "Shut up, be happy" and merely superficial communication between it's peers. If somebody acts like an idiot, I treat them as idiots, and if an idiot starts acting in a way that deserves my respect, they gain my respect. This is exactly the kind of change that I do not see the slightest clue of in the case of solo@web. For him, it is enough that somebody defended him straight-away, and he holds on to that putting criticism aside and is happy with the "outcome."  This is also the kind of behaviour that I'd rather not witness.

[rlefebvr]

Well said and well spoken.

If you saw and read my second anf third reply to the thread, you know I do not totally disagree with you  nor was this an attempt on my part to personally attack you. It was not personal at all and like you, a quick reaction to your comments.

I love a good argument, I am french after all (it's what we do best) and hope to argue about more important things with you in the future. There is a difference between arguing and personally attacking someone however. We probably both crossed the line this time, but it is such a muddy line, it's hard to see at times.


By the way, your reply here. Class act all the way.