I care about my audience very much, wondering whether they are having a nice time, caring about the music etc. I have an older friend who's been performing since forever, who insists that if the performer has a good time, that's all that really matters. I completely disagree. I don't think that's what's being said here-- I interpret other posts as saying more that we should play for the sake of the music, no matter what the audience thinks or does. Again, I can't agree, although I see the artistic point. For me, once someone is listening with my permission, it's not just about me and the music anymore. I mean, why do we let them be there, even pay to be there, if we don't care about the experience they're having? Although, having said that, it is also true that we don't always KNOW what experience they're having, even if we think we do. I've had friends play very, very well and instead of the ovation that I think they should get, the audience is just frozen at the end. I find out later that they were so moved, they couldn't bear to clap and break the spell. That never happens to me, hmmm... And other times, audiences don't clap because, as other posters have found, they just don't know it's the right time, but they loved what they heard. One of the famous magicians, I forget-- the guy who married Claudia Schiffer-- he said in an interview that he used to be painfully shy and it was a horror for him to walk out on stage and speak to the audiences. He started telling himself before going out how grateful he was to all those nice people for coming to his show and allowing him to make his living doing what he loved. Grateful! yes, I think that's a great outlook, and a respectful one.