To Repliers So Far--
Well, for DinosaurTales I would suggest a stuffed bear and a small sculpture of an alligator as an ideal audience. I am fortunate that my spouse -- wife in my case -- does seem to like my playing. When she is having a gab-fest on the phone, she comes into the living room so the other party can hear me playing. So she is proud of me. Actually, when I am playing I don't know what is going on at all. We miss phone calls, because the phone just rings and rings -- but when I am playing I don't hear the phone -- I'm "out of it."
As for the concerns about the term amateur, well I may be naive, but for me a professional is someone who does something for money or as a paying career. An amateur is someone who does something -- unpaid -- because they like it. This does not mean an amateur is not good. A tennis amateur or a golf amateur can be pretty amazing.
As for we senior citizens, well, many of us are retired and have time to practice.
Some traits of amateurs (as I term them, and "this could include you") --
1. We may never develop any piece to "recital polish" because before we attain that degree of polish we become deathly tired of the piece. I get as good as I am going to get on a piece at the point I get deathly tired of it. Then I move on. Often on a long piece, there are a few tough sections where I slow down and hesitate because I just haven't the dedication to practice them to death.
2. How lucky we are to play what we like. A professional cannot have that luxury. How often did Horowitz lament that he detested Tchaikovsky's Piano Concerto #1, or Rachmaninoff complain how much he hated the Prelude in C# Minor. Pros tend to play what their audiences demand, or what they are contracted to play. One night-club pianist we know used to play "It's a Wonderful World" about six times a night, because people kept asking for it. He was DEATHLY tired of it, but he had to make a living. I imagine there were times he wanted to scream.
3. Playing for people. We have covered this one, and all of us are tired of the rudeness of people who "insist" we play, then walk away or glue their eyes to a TV, or whatever. Well, one thing I learned is that really good stuff is not a good choice to play. I have a little arrangement of "The Way We Were" that shows up in a Level III book. It is not hard at all. It only lasts 2 minutes -- people love it. If you try something challenging and play something that -- to me -- has a big sound, they soon turn off. Why throw pearls before swine, when they prefer acorns anyway? Throw acorns before swine.
Thanks so much for all these fun and very heartfelt responses. I was delighted that folks out there have some things in common with me.
the Glyptodont (a prehistoric armadillo about the size of a Volkswagen)