Sex and Piano Playing

[jhon]

I do not intend to be malicious or something like to make other members disclose their sexual behavior.  I just want to know if indeed, sex has an EFFECT on one's piano playing (and you DON'T need to answer based on experience).  For me, I personally believe that libido is something bad for piano playing because in the first place, classical music is too deep to be sensual.  Actually, sex is literally physical - can be also emotional if done with love - while piano playing is something spiritual - I don't mean Christianity but simply sort of being in touched with your soul.

When I was joking with my teacher (she is married but after 12 years her husband died from sickness), she mentioned she is more on "sex before a performance" than "sex after a performance" becasue she feels more inspired.  I don't know what that mean.  I just wondered how, in that case, a pianist would be able to restore his stamina.  Maybe, if that would be the case, piano playing will be like "the spirit is willing but the body is not" as sex had already consumed the vigor of the body.  (In sex, it's USUALLY the other way around - "the body is willing but the spirit is not".  (I say "usually" because this may not be the case if the sex is done with "love.")

Is this the reason why I know many pianists (some colleagues) who grew old single and unmarried?  Is it that part of commitment - sex - they are afraid of?

So, by and large, is sex HARMFUL for piano playing? 


NOTE: By the term "sex", I mean any kind of sexual activities, whether marital or extra-marital.

(BTW, I hope this will not be censored by moderators but if you think this topic is worthless, go delete it anyway.) 

[Etude]

Here is a thread from last year on this:

https://www.pianostreet.com/smf/index.php/topic,5684.0.html

[jr11]

I don't know that sex makes much of a difference, any more than any other physical activity. Depending on how it went, could perhaps inspire more or less confidence if done before a performance. After a performance, may be a nice reward, or perhaps a 'congratulations' gesture from your partner.

If one is deeply in love, than that will most certainly inspire! Same as if love is going wrong... either way, it can certainly put more feeling into a performance.

[Siberian Husky]

i think..this is something too overanalyzed..piano playing as an art..in association with sex..shouldnt be disected with so much effort..your only going to deterioate the ambiguous gap that mends them together..ooohhhh yyeeaaahh..the moisture

[pianonut]

 you are a very curious one of a few that asks point blank questions and sees their thread skyrocket (near july 4th no less) because of the word sex.  you could add it to almost any thread, if you tried.  augmented chords and sex...  the fact you add in biblical reasoning is curious "the spirit is willing, the body is not."  who ever told you that?  all i will say is that if you are trying to have some concentration and your spouse walks by naked, it ruins everything.   

[pita bread]

For me, I personally believe that libido is something bad for piano playing because in the first place, classical music is too deep to be sensual.

What about Scriabin? Don't you think his music is a tad bit sensual?

[whynot]

I think it depends on how much you've integrated the various aspects of your life and activities into who you feel you are as a person.  All these things could be experienced as very separate from one another, potentially one distracting/detracting from the other, or the opposite:  as related expressions of you as a person.  I mean, that's pretty simplified, but of course with all the possibilities in between as well. 

[Kohai]

I completely agree with whynot and could not have said it better myself.

Kohai

[mikeyg]

WHEN I PLAY THE PIANO, IT INSPIRES ORGASMS.  DOES THAT COUNT?

[pianonut]

being that i am not a concert pianist YET, i feel that i am hitchhiking on a musical escalator of experiences.  i try to repeat the good ones, and minimize the negative ones.  usually, in the past, if i practiced a lot, watched diet/sleep, and generally was obsessive about having quiet and ability to concentrate, the recital or piece would go well.  there must be professionals to whom no matter what they do the night before or moments before the performance (who knows?) that doesn't mess up their concentration.

your personal life at other times can sort of balance out your personality and what you need to function in all areas of your life.  not being a sex therapist or really knowing what it is makes people think that they can get energy from it - i would say it is a huge rush.  if you have all that - and then get tired - you might perform on stage and fall asleep halfway through.  people would then start wondering 'where's the adrenaline'  - hmm  they must have been up to something.  we want to listen to more energetic performer. 

[whynot]

"WHEN I PLAY THE PIANO, IT INSPIRES ORGASMS..."

... in whom?

[donjuan]

I personally believe that libido is something bad for piano playing ......
When I was joking with my teacher (she is married but after 12 years her husband died from sickness), she mentioned she is more on "sex before a performance" than "sex after a performance" becasue she feels more inspired.  I don't know what that mean. .......

 I just wondered how, in that case, a pianist would be able to restore his stamina. ......

sex had already consumed the vigor of the body.  (In sex, it's USUALLY the other way around - "the body is willing but the spirit is not".  (I say "usually" because this may not be the case if the sex is done with "love.")
......is sex HARMFUL for piano playing? 


NOTE: By the term "sex", I mean any kind of sexual activities, whether marital or extra-marital.

haha - I can tell you are certainly no Don Juan   

For me, the only reason for me wanting to live is:
a) music and
b) girls

...nothing wrong with combining them.. 

if anything, maybe you can harness the sexual energy... you know, like the art of tantra, only find a way to apply it to music.  Just think, if you can make a musical performance give the audience an aural orgasm that lasts throughout, Id say you are in pretty good shape to succeed in music. 



....but Im ignorant! Ask Bernhard for better ideas!
donjuan

[pita bread]

if anything, maybe you can harness the sexual energy... you know, like the art of tantra, only find a way to apply it to music. Just think, if you can make a musical performance give the audience an aural orgasm that lasts throughout, Id say you are in pretty good shape to succeed in music.

SCRIABIN!

[jeremyjchilds]

Since I got married, My playing level has gone through the roof, because I can actually think about something other than sex, cause it's a sure thing now

[ako]

if anything, maybe you can harness the sexual energy... you know, like the art of tantra, only find a way to apply it to music.  Just think, if you can make a musical performance give the audience an aural orgasm that lasts throughout, Id say you are in pretty good shape to succeed in music. 


donjuan

I think I just had that type of experience when I heard  Chopin PC 1 by Martha Agerich (CHarles Dutoit and Montreal Sym.)  on the radio tonight. It was a very exhilarating feeling. Hearing that piano entrance gave me an adrenaline rush that felt like "love at first sight" only it was aural. Loved it!

[pita bread]

That feeling was like when I first heard Pogorelich's Ondine climax, and MT's Prokofiev Piano Concerto #2 1st mvt cadenza to orchestra re-entry. Totally floored.

[mikeyg]

"WHEN I PLAY THE PIANO, IT INSPIRES ORGASMS..."

... in whom?

In all the women in the audience, fool.

[lostinidlewonder]

I reckon if you are thinking about sex when playing piano it is as bad as thinking about playing piano when you're having sex. Sex is nothing, Love is a lot more, and that most definatley effects Piano Playing, if one draws meaning of love through sex then I guess then sex would positively affect their playing.

But who is to say that negative emotions inspire "worse" piano playing? Someone who is utterly depressed could write the most amazing music or vent enormous amounts of emotions at the piano. I think emotions are a strong driving force behind music, negative or positive both fuel the energy behind it all. ooo spooky!

[Bob]

Quote from: whynot on July 08, 2005, 05:51:06 PM
"WHEN I PLAY THE PIANO, IT INSPIRES ORGASMS..."
... in whom?

In all the women in the audience, fool.

I hope your family isn't at that concert because that would just be wrong.

[mikeyg]

My family doesn't appreciate the classical music, and I only play for beautiful women (none of my family members fit into this category, IMO) so it's alrite.

[BoliverAllmon]

In all the women in the audience, fool.

most ladies I have seen at classical music venues are not a sight to behold. You can have them all.

[i_m_robot]

Here is a thread from last year on this:

https://www.pianostreet.com/smf/index.php/topic,5684.0.html

sarcastic response:
who wants to read that old crap


tentative statement:
sex before a performance makes a man play like a woman and a woman play like a man

a joke:
for some reason woman appear to play better and men appear to play worse

[c18cont]

When you reach my age,

You will quit all the worry about sex, and get back to the piano as the great experience, Like I have....

John

[Jacey1973]

most ladies I have seen at classical music venues are not a sight to behold. You can have them all.

It is the same for men too. The majority of audiences for classical concerts i go to are full of elderly couples, (and very occasionally the odd geeky guy) really not a good place for finding someone, but you never know... Maybe i should start dating men over 60? Lol...it could work (?)

[c18cont]

..."Men over 60"...That,

Might be pretty dependant on how old you are.....

John Cont

[mikeyg]

most ladies I have seen at classical music venues are not a sight to behold. You can have them all.

...and I only play for beautiful women

nuff said.  I'll take all the women I play for.

[Bouter Boogie]

nuff said.  I'll take all the women I play for.

So.. Seriously.. What DO you do when you get inspired by all the women you play for? What'll happen?

[thracozaag]

 I haven't had sex in ages, but playing the Scriabin 5th sonata suffices; talk about an XXX-rated piece

koji

[brewtality]

dayum

[c18cont]

Are you sure this thread isn't related,

To the "Elves and Faeries"...and "Crushes" threads?

John

[stevie]

sex distracts me from piano, my computer is right next to my piano, and im so easliy tempted to stop playing and watch pornography  .

it does no harm to my octave technique, but my finger technique suffers this way.

[pianonut]

i know i shouldn't respond to young adults and adults as a 'mom' but i can't help it.  why fill your life with 'crap' as my son says.  there's addictions that are very hard to get rid of and waste people's time.  i tell my son (for what it's worth) 'would you want your sister doing that?'  if you wouldn't want a family member showing themselves, then you probably wouldn't want someone else's sister (or bro) doing it either.  (rant rant)

calms down.  ok. women/men shouldn't be objects only.  i do agree about having desire for someone's looks, but if you only focus on what they can give you - you haven't redeemed your time in learning what you can give them.  it's a waste of time, imo, to stare at anything for a long time.  of course, i'm married, so it's easier.  BUT, you can focus on what items of sensuality, attractiveness would make you more desireable, it will pay off.

for instance, a girl will find a guy much less attractive if he has all this competition in his house (mag's, computer stuff) and would rather that he himself was fit (exercise takes a good bit of time), smelled good (takes showers and uses general hygene), has a good vocabulary, knows about a lot of things including cooking, laundry, general household maintenance, possibly knows how to dance the tango or any ballroom dance, and isn't afraid to share his knowledge.  all that is much more attractive and will get you to the goal of a 'live' girl and not one of those wind up toys.