i know i shouldn't respond to young adults and adults as a 'mom' but i can't help it. why fill your life with 'crap' as my son says. there's addictions that are very hard to get rid of and waste people's time. i tell my son (for what it's worth) 'would you want your sister doing that?' if you wouldn't want a family member showing themselves, then you probably wouldn't want someone else's sister (or bro) doing it either. (rant rant)
calms down. ok. women/men shouldn't be objects only. i do agree about having desire for someone's looks, but if you only focus on what they can give you - you haven't redeemed your time in learning what you can give them. it's a waste of time, imo, to stare at anything for a long time. of course, i'm married, so it's easier. BUT, you can focus on what items of sensuality, attractiveness would make you more desireable, it will pay off.
for instance, a girl will find a guy much less attractive if he has all this competition in his house (mag's, computer stuff) and would rather that he himself was fit (exercise takes a good bit of time), smelled good (takes showers and uses general hygene), has a good vocabulary, knows about a lot of things including cooking, laundry, general household maintenance, possibly knows how to dance the tango or any ballroom dance, and isn't afraid to share his knowledge. all that is much more attractive and will get you to the goal of a 'live' girl and not one of those wind up toys.