about love

[ashraf_khalil72]

how many time(s) we can find true love in alife time?

[BoliverAllmon]

true love conquers all. Therefore when you find true love why would there be a need to find it again with someone else?

[skeletonymusic]

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[Siberian Husky]

in theory..true love is absolute..and can only BE..THUS..making true LOVE able for experience only ONCE...but..us humans dont have the capacity to use reason under the influence of love


so everytime we fall in love with someone..we assume he/she is the one..even for maybe 1 second..


love is intoxicating..but i guess its what keeps us going..

[pianonut]

these are profound thoughts.  just when i think my husband loves me for who i am, he goes and talks about symmetry - and how in the song of solomon that he loved the girl for her beauty.  i told him he had it all wrong and solomon didn't even know what love was.  (what was the harem around for?) then my husband goes and says "his true love helped him appreciate the symmetry in the other girls."  i felt like smacking him upside the head.  do men really know true love when they see it.  ok.  here i was thinking we were in love???  what is this?  after 20 years no less.  and, no way is he getting into a harem with me.

[ashraf_khalil72]

iment boliver when you (for any reasone) get separated from the one you love
will ...can you find love again? or it happens once in alife?

[bernhard]

no way is he getting into a harem with me.

How selfish of you…

Love is above all about sharing. Hence the Harem.

“One wife: one problem.
Two wives: Two problems.
Three wives: Three problems.
Four wives: No problem.”

(Arab proverb).


 

Best wishes,
Bernhard.

[BoliverAllmon]

first true love is real, Trust me.

second, smack your husband hard pianonut. That dude is asking for it.

I don't know if you will ever find love again. I have three grandmothers who have all lost their husbands in life. Even years later none of them could ever love another man again. Even mentioning an aspect of their husbands brings back wonderful memories and starts the waterworks.

great proverb Bernhard. I found it hilarious

[Floristan]

I believe we each have the potential of 3 in a lifetime -- 3 true loves.  Like Prokofiev's three oranges.  Why three?  Because it takes years to know if love is true.  Three seems to me the maximum a person can manage in a lifetime.

Why not one?  Because with 5 billion people on the planet, the possibilities of meeting someone one can love are endless.  I think if one lives in a small, isolated community, maybe then one.  But for most of us who live in cities where we have contact with lots of people every day, the possibilities are endless.

[Kohai]

There is only one true love and that is not limited to only a single person.

Kohai

[BoliverAllmon]

I believe we each have the potential of 3 in a lifetime -- 3 true loves.  Like Prokofiev's three oranges.  Why three?  Because it takes years to know if love is true.  Three seems to me the maximum a person can manage in a lifetime.

Why not one?  Because with 5 billion people on the planet, the possibilities of meeting someone one can love are endless.  I think if one lives in a small, isolated community, maybe then one.  But for most of us who live in cities where we have contact with lots of people every day, the possibilities are endless.

possibilities are endless, but guided by someone.

[pianonut]

yes!  boliver, you must be right!  guided by someone if you ask for it.  because, there are a lot of good looking people around, but they might not be the one you can live with for a lifetime.  to me, there is only one.  the one you can trust, the one that makes you feel special and above all others, the one that doesn't turn around (and is scared to peek when you're not looking), and who actually misses you when you are gone (and tells you)...who calls during the day, and who makes your life easier and not harder.  i must have had some help - because i never would have 'chosen' this man on my own.  he sort of 'dropped' in and we became attached to each other about the same time.  (well, first him, then i thought about it, then me, then we both thought about it, then it kind of goes back and forth - the spoiling and pampering).  i think if you enjoy giving pleasure to your spouse and visa-versa, and you don't be too critical - it is possible to have just one love.

[Siberian Husky]

There is only one true love and that is not limited to only a single person.

Kohai

im gunna go with this one...

and to tell you the truth..

i find stronger, more bonding, more fulfilling love, outside of people...thats right..you guessed it....my animals


if i had a wife of say..5 years..maybe even 10 years..and i found out she didnt like my dogs...or i caught her treating my Airebis badly..i kick her asss to the curb with a quickness

[Siberian Husky]

oh yeah..and i dont want people responding with..

"well in those 5 or 10 years im sure you would be able to tell if the woman was sensire about her affinity for animals or dogs"..and the answer is..there are some pretty crooked people out there..who act FAKE for the longest time

i was in a relationship with a girl for two and a half years..everything was perfect we had so much in common...one day she was watching television in my room while i was in the kitchen preparing the food we had just bought on plates..we had just gotton home..and whenever i come home Airebis is full of energy and is happy to see me and whomever im with he enjoys the company of people...he jumps on the bed with her..and she begins to shove him off repeatedly as to say she didnt want him near her i suppose she was in a bad mood and was getting irritated with him..i wasnt aware of the situation at this point..im walking to my room and hear a whimpering cry and hurtful yelp..i hurry to my room and airebis is cowering on the floor at the foot of the bed and she had a face of agression and her body position in a way that insinuated she had agressively advanced toward him..i immediately knew what happened...i yelled the *** out of that pregnant dog and physically threw her out of my house, and never saw her again...i put my doggies even before my own family..i dont care...

[pianonut]

i have to admit, i do understand!  the fact that you expect a high degree of compatability with your dogs as well as with you probably means that when you're dating you have to actively seek people who already love animals (and show affection to them).  who knows, maybe a veteranarian or something!

[Siberian Husky]

oh yeah..

a blonde instrument playing veteranarian who enjoys hip hop music and operas...and would occiasionally enjoy going to a Bboy (breakdance jam)...an outdoorsy,non religious, highly opinionated, philosophical, comedic genius......


my expectations will never be met

[pianonut]

if you saw the two girls at the 'country club for canines' that i met (when looking in earnest for a place to put my cat for a week  - but only saw the country club part - and decided to leave the cat home with a neighbor) you would have been surprised.  they were 18-20 and very much dog lovers.  the pampering that went on in that place!  and, they had a menu outside (dinner was written down every night on a blackboard).  it made me wish my cat was a dog.  they were so nice to us, though, and offerred to leave a number for a strictly cat boarding place (too far away).  yes, a real cat house.  anyway - maybe you're looking in the wrong places - go check out all the good looking girls that work either as vets or petstores or pet pamperers (wash dogs).  then you're dogs will have the treatment and you will be happy.  ps forgive me, but i can see you now, all sudz up with the dogs.

pss and why do they have to be everything?  maybe yu should be the musician.  as long as you can enjoy listening to the same music and enjoying the dogs. 

[bernhard]

There is only one true love and that is not limited to only a single person.

Kohai

This is very deep. It goes right to the essence of the situation.

Anyway, here is another one:

"Marriage is like a castle under siege: Those within wnat to get out, those outside want to get in."

(Persian proverb)

Best wishes,
Bernhard.

[thalbergmad]

Marriage is like a game of chess.

You start off with an early knight and end up with a stale mate.

[Siberian Husky]

bernhard is pimp of philosophy

[bernhard]

Marriage is like a game of chess.

You start off with an early knight and end up with a stale mate.

"Every man is incomplete until he marries. Then he is finished." (Zsa Zsa Gabor)

[pianonut]

jack lemmon starred in a movie i saw the other night, but didn't get the title.  it wasn't 'the odd couple' (though that one reminded me of vaccuming a lot and no one appreciating it) - i think it's something like 'love and marriage' or marriage.  anyway, he marries a girl from las vegas, and wakes up to find she can't speak english (speaks italian).  he wants to get a divorce (esp. since he will lose his butler and all the peace and quiet).  she ends up liking to stay up late watching cowboy and indian shows while he has night blinders on. he can't seem to get the divorce going because his lawyer thinks his wife is cute (and wife speaks italian, too) so he plans 'the perfect murder' but tries it first with a mannequin.  he also writes cartoons - and people see that he jokes about this murder.  then his wife leaves (because she doesn't see the humor) and people think he killed her.  he gets really sad and wishes that she'd come back.  i think it's a happy ending, they get back together.

 

[ashraf_khalil72]

boliver if the posibility of true love occures once in life (at least as i beleive)

              so the posibility to find this one true love in afive bellions

              on the planet earth is nearly zero 

[pianonut]

unless you pray!  just try it.  if God made you, then he made your match somewhere.  i used to doubt this, too, but, if he made them, he can find them.  after all, marriage was God's idea.  the institution started with two becoming one.  how can you fulfill this if God doesn't work His end of the bargain?  probably, for God, mates are like missing pairs of socks.  He has to look around a bit, so it won't happen tommorrow, but maybe in a month or two.  for me, i prayed in august and got married in june the following year.  how strange is that?  all i can say, is it iworked for me. 

certain people even prayed for specifics.  like jacob - (make her like my animals) - surprise!  she gave the camels water.  i prayed for someone who wouldn't be really critical or change after i married them.  i wanted someone sensitive and kind.  that pretty much sums up my husband.  occasionally he'll get on my nerves about something, but he's usually extremely thoughtful. if i tell him something hurt my feelings, he doesn't do it again (on purpose).

 

[Dazzer]

which begs the question... how much did he pray for you?

no offense to you or your husband of course...

[pianonut]

he never told me he prayed for me, but he did tell me that he only wanted to marry someone who could play the piano well.  when we started dating, he acted sort of non-chalant ( like he could take me or leave me - so i thought - he's probably not the one - because i thought you had to see a lot of affection right away).  when he casually asked if i had a boyfriend  i said "yes" and never thought i'd hear from him again.  when he wrote a letter soon after - i was really surprised.  the boyfriend was just a guy friend.

ok. try this.  see their reactions to different situations before you tell them you like them.  then, see if you get at least 50 of the responses you were hoping for.  driving skills might be one thing that is a good idea.  (brag- my husband had a good driving record _ thus cheaper insurance)  i wasn't looking for this at the time, but now i might.  if they secretly carry around old girlfriend/boyfriends picture and kiss it when you're not looking.  if they can't live without the picture - they're probably stuck on someone else.

my husband had a nude girl on a horse in his living room.  of course she was blond and big busted, too.  first, i repainted her hair the right color, then i made her figure more like mine - and then, threw it away after a week or so - thinking what does he need that for now anyway.  hint:  if you are dating or about to get married - lose the props.

ps i think my husband and i both modified our lists.  his probably started with blond, etc. and mine with perfect abs.  then, the list gets modified to enjoy being around that person.  think they are smart, good looking in their own way, like you for who you are, relax you, make you laugh, and stuff like that.  i was disappointed at first that my hubby didn't really want kids.  he would move from grocery lines to avoid babies.  then, when he had one of his own, he was the perfect father.  he sang all the time to our son carrying him around.  now, he told me the other day when he sees babies it makes him want to have another one.  since we have three, now i'm the one that says 'no thank you.'

[c18cont]

There are likely many you would find real compatibility with, perhaps a few of perfection...

I found one...At the wrong time...I feel the same after 23 years...and so does she... but we can never be together...a not unusual situation for solid responsible person's it would seem..and we never had an affair in the "normal" sense.....we simply refused...

It can happen...it did happen with me...

John Cont

[BoliverAllmon]

boliver if the posibility of true love occures once in life (at least as i beleive)

              so the posibility to find this one true love in afive bellions

              on the planet earth is nearly zero 

that is why I say we have a guide.

[bernhard]

unless you pray!  just try it.    all i can say, is it iworked for me. 

 

A bit like Hanon, then.

[bernhard]

my husband had a nude girl on a horse in his living room. 

Wasn't that a bit messy?

[bernhard]

bernhard is pimp of philosophy

What about that one then:

"I am an excellent housekeeper. Every time I get a divorce I keep the house." (Zsa Zsa Gabor)

(Who is the pimp now)?

[keys]

Music makes one feel so romantic - at least it always gets on one's nerves - which is the same thing nowadays.
Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900)

[pianonut]

oh, bernhard, you are not romantic at all.  hanon?  i never gave my husband hanon exercises.  especially with the horse around and all the mess.  i never had time.  especially after the blond girl left.   

[bernhard]

oh, bernhard, you are not romantic at all.  hanon?  i never gave my husband hanon exercises.  especially with the horse around and all the mess.  i never had time.  especially after the blond girl left.   

Ah, but I am.

On the other hand, you and Siberian Husky seem to have a bit in common: you both kicked out the blonde and kept the animal (dog in his case).