Boldness

[zheer]

Male pattern boldness, haw unattractive is this to women and are you going bold.

[m1469]

Well, I really am not sure to understand the wording of your question (?), but, it is very funny to me that you are bringing this up as I was just spending some time realizing I would like to understand some of this stuff better.  Like, what is the essence of *male* ?  And what is the essence of  *female*?  Obviously, for the most part, there are certain biological and physiological differences.  Without being "religious", I wonder if there are actual spiritual differences ?

I have all these ideas along these lines, and even though we have had --sometimes, stupid-- disscussions on these things before, I have sometimes felt as though I cannot actually express the ideas that I feel are true to me, though they seem right at the tip of my tongue.

What's funny to me right now is that, "boldness" was one of the qualities I thought of, at first, as being considered "masculine".  However, I don't think that's entirely true and I am not sure to know whether boldness is really a thing in absolute terms.  I think that, perhaps, boldness itself is neither biologically  male nor female, but that there are different shades of boldness that could be considered more masculine or feminine without reference to human gender or sex.  I think that ideally, we as individuals need and would like a balance between  masculinity and femininity, regardless of human gender and body parts.

To answer what I think is your question above, for me as an individual, boldness is very attractive.  But, more on the grounds of my believing it to be a necessary quality in my own dealings with life.  I want to learn from boldness and discover my own sense of it more readily in my life.  I think people can help each other in this way, as each indivdual expresses unique shades of these qualities such as boldness.
 
Another interesting thought is that, I think that any one quality is most potent and useful when used in balance with another that compliments it.  Kind of like complimentary colours.  For example, BOLDNESS along with sensitivity (froming a team) is perhaps more *effective* than one of those qualities on its own.  


"That's all" for now...


m1469 



ps- sometimes what may appear as boldness, is not really all that bold, and what may appear as lack of boldness is actually quite bold

[abell88]

Umm...zheer...do you mean bald?

[m1469]

oh... he he, how funny to me... well I still mean everything I said, but I guess it was meant for a different consversation ... LOL 





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[zheer]

Yes i ment BALD thanks for the correction.
   Well m1469 thanks for the essay, i did not think that women can find baldness attractive,however i dont see why not since its not an illness , but rather a gentic and age related thing. Since i am a little thin on top i now feel a lot better about myself. Cheers m1469.

[Torp]

Male pattern boldness, haw unattractive is this to women and are you going bold.

If you're talking about "baldness":
If a woman were to love me simply because of my hair, or somehow see me differently because of the lack of it, then I probably wouldn't have been interested in that woman in the first place and it would be a moot point.

If you really are talking about "boldness":
Well, m1469 has expressed much of what I would say.  It is neither a uniquely male or female quality.  To whatever extent I do or don't possess boldness I leave that up to others to determine whether that is attractive or not.

[dolcejen]

I think that if a guy accepts his baldness, doesn't do anything to try to hide it, and is comfortable with it, it does nothing to detract from his looks. I much prefer seeing a balding guy with a buzz or something (obviously not hiding it) than someone who rakes it over their head and hopes no wind comes along. 
Just my little two cents.

[xvimbi]

Just shave it all off. Completely bald heads are a lot more attractive than a few speckles of hair here and there (unless the head is badly deformed).

To baldly go where no one has gone before...

[m1469]

To baldly go where no one has gone before...

he he... well, yes, be bold with your baldness   

I somehow resort back to my first post now... 

[Torp]

Ultimately it all comes down to being comfortable with who you are, which has nothing to do with what you look like physically.

[xvimbi]

Ultimately it all comes down to being comfortable with who you are, which has nothing to do with what you look like physically.

Although correct in a grander scheme of things, I'd guess, 99.9% of all people would say physical appearance does play a role in defining one's comfort level.

[Torp]

Although correct in a grander scheme of things, I'd guess, 99.9% of all people would say physical appearance does play a role in defining one's comfort level.

Does it define their comfort level?  Or is it an outward reflection of their internal beliefs?  This perhaps does not apply to baldness per se since in many cases you don't really have a choice about whether you lose hair or not.  I guess I'm thinking more in terms of weight, so perhaps my brain has taken a detour from the original topic...

[rc]

I much prefer seeing a balding guy with a buzz or something (obviously not hiding it) than someone who rakes it over their head and hopes no wind comes along. 
Just my little two cents.

...and when there're no more tufts to rake over on top, the bald man is forced to grow a long beard and rake the it allll the way around to compensate. Some kind of chin-hat...

Anyways, I'm with Torp, in comfort having more to do with internal beliefs than anything else. The barest scalp and deformed noggin I've ever seen was also incredibly comfortable with himself, the guy made you forget that he looked like ET. I say if someone is self-respecting enough to make themselves look well in ways they can control, they're secure enough that the physical aspects they can't control don't matter.

I'm not one to talk anyhow. Chances are, genetically, I'll have my luxurious mane 'till the end. Yep.

 

[bernhard]

oh... he he, how funny to me... well I still mean everything I said, but I guess it was meant for a different consversation ... LOL 





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That gets my vote for the most hilarious misunderstanding of the forum so far. (And I saw it coming straight away)

[bernhard]

Just shave it all off. Completely bald heads are a lot more attractive than a few speckles of hair here and there (unless the head is badly deformed).

To baldly go where no one has gone before...

Yes, xvimbi’s is definitely the way to go (even if you are not bald). Look at Yul Brinner and Telly Savallas: Sexual icons. (And last but not least, Captain Jean-Luc Picard)

Best wishes,
Bernhard.

[Torp]

Make it so.

Engage.

[m1469]

.... (And I saw it coming straight away)

And, I have since figured you would have