i don't have any heartfelt sympathy for this man. perhaps that is why i disdained chopin for so long. instead of complaining about what he got, why didn't he go out and get what he wanted.
anyway, i think rob47 is right on. no sense crying about past issues. too many people are stuck in the past. i think it's stupid. get up. move on. find another one. there's a lot of women in the world. and, if he really really liked the beautiful woman, he should have said something. what was he thinking anyway?
hope this doesn't sound harsh. i'm glad i married who i did and have no regrets. and, i frankly told him how i felt right away. what's the worst that can happen? no. that's all. is the guy scared to get a no. how unrealistic is that. he could never be a salesman.