Dating a pianist

[maul]

Where'd you meet this guy?

[kard]

:O you have a secret method? I'd pay for that one lol...
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Sorry fate didn't work out though  That 'he's not into me' realization never hurts less. Although, in hindsight, you really hadn't really known him for that long. So, as you said, onward  good luck!

[iheartpiano]

I did however go out with someone who was a fan of Culture Club, which i thought was a good enough reason to leave her pretty quickly.

Thal

LOL.. not a fan of Boy George, huh?

I'm sorry too mukubella, and I wish you lots of luck in moving forward.  I can't comment on dating a pianist either, I married a programmer.    He does play a bit of classical guitar though..

[goldentone]

My God he had me.  He has no idea how completely. 

Fortunately... I have a top secret fail-proof method for getting over someone quickly....  even someone who had me questioning everything...

Sigh... time to enact secret method.

A secret method?  Hmmmm 

[mukubella]

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[pianistimo]

aw.  come on!  we want to know the secret method. 

ok.  we just want to know the basics of the secret method.  might need to try it on my husband after i mess up and criticize him about something.  you know - boost his ego again. 

se-cret- me-thod  se-cret me-thod  se-cret me-thod.... 

[jazleung]

I have not dated with the pianist , so I cannot comment . But what I think is , there are the risk we take when we choose to fall in love with someone...(Maybe I am too negative right?)

coz ' maybe he is a bad guy , maybe not...

So , if he is the MR. RIGHT , who knows?

Maybe he is....

So  dating  a man / pianist  is a beautiful but sometimes getting hurts story...

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[thalbergmad]

we want to know the secret method.  even if it 'sucks.'  

With a lot of women, that is the method and it works.

Thal

[concerto_love]

hmm....  let's think, If i have a boyfriend that a pianist.... hmmm 

[mukubella]

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[rc]

A thought:  it's happened many times that I've found a girl I'm interested in to be unavailable, so I relax into 'friendly acquaintances' and live my life...  When one day, lo and behold, she's single and interested.  Unavailability can be just a temporary thing

[maul]

I feel your pain. I'm in a similar situation, except we both love each other. Separated by unfortunate circumstances.

[pianistimo]

aw.  just mail it.  what if you die tommorrow.  won't it make him happy that two people loved him?  well, you can end the letter - 'i know you already love someone else - just thought you should know.' 

[ahinton]

Now I wonder if someone should start a sub-thread to this one called "Dating a pianistimo"...

Best,

Alistair

[pianistimo]

but, ahinton, like you i have already made a choice.  yours to be true to music - and mine to be true to my husband.  i'm talking about those who haven't committed yet.  if one is dating - the options aren't closed, right?!  when my husband took me out on our first 'date' as a thank you for playing piano for him --he asked if i had a boyfriend.  to be ont he safe side, i said 'yes.'  at the time i did have a good friend who was a guy.  surprisingly, he was ok with just being friends and wrote a couple weeks later.  i was sorta awestruck that he still thought of me and was ok with friendship.  that was when i became interested in him a lot.  he just wanted to talk about stuff and music.  it ended up that we had more in common than i realized. 

[goldentone]

Well, perhaps Mukubella, if the winds change and he is no longer under
the spell of this current woman, his eyes will be opened to you. . .

[pianistimo]

send him that recent dangerous looking picture.  a picture is worth a thousand words - but send the letter with it anyways.  the letter and picture combo might do it better than just the letter. 

however, if i were in your shoes - i'd probably do what you are doing and just 'give up.'  women tend to take relationships at face value and move on.  guys are like - years later - woe is me....'  unbeknownst to them the previous woman is probably not their type anyways. 

in bicycling - my motto is 'cyclists that use a rear view mirror are typically slow.'

[mukubella]

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[ahinton]

but, ahinton, like you i have already made a choice.  yours to be true to music - and mine to be true to my husband.  i'm talking about those who haven't committed yet.  if one is dating - the options aren't closed, right?!  when my husband took me out on our first 'date' as a thank you for playing piano for him --he asked if i had a boyfriend.  to be ont he safe side, i said 'yes.'  at the time i did have a good friend who was a guy.  surprisingly, he was ok with just being friends and wrote a couple weeks later.  i was sorta awestruck that he still thought of me and was ok with friendship.  that was when i became interested in him a lot.  he just wanted to talk about stuff and music.  it ended up that we had more in common than i realized. 

I was joking, you know...

Best,

Alistair

[thalbergmad]

Now I wonder if someone should start a sub-thread to this one called "Dating a pianistimo"...

Best,

Alistair

We could do, but there is only one person on here qualified to respond.

Thal

[db05]

Right now I belong to him... he doesn't know it... but I do.   My thoughts have been of him.... my curiosities... my breaths... since he walked into my life... they have been of him... and only him. 

And after the letter is complete...  the incredibly romantic, hopeful, sensual, touching and fateful letter....   

then it's time to be done  

I'm sure we'll end up just being friends... maybe someday I will tell him that I once wanted to inhabit his kiss... know his gaze... that there was a time when... he was a dream that I did not want to wake from.

I can so relate to this feeling!! HELP!! He's my history teacher, for goodness' sake! 

I have written him a couple of letters already. And messages every other day. It's not entirely romantic, though. I want to be his piano student because he's a one-of-a-kind teacher. And there's so much I have to learn. About piano, music, love and life...

The irony was, I used to hate him with a passion. Now I love him with a passion.

[thalbergmad]

The irony was, I used to hate him with a passion. Now I love him with a passion.

Hate can turn to passion pretty quickly as both are strong emotions.

A word uttered in silence or a glance over a crowded bar. A note scribbled in haste or a chance meeting in an elevator.

Thal

[general disarray]

I feel your pain. I'm in a similar situation, except we both love each other. Separated by unfortunate circumstances.

would those "unfortunate circumstances" be your personality disorder, maul?

[db05]

Hate can turn to passion pretty quickly as both are strong emotions.

A word uttered in silence or a glance over a crowded bar. A note scribbled in haste or a chance meeting in an elevator.

Thal

Thal, that's so romantic! I love you!

Er... Maybe not. 

[general disarray]

Hate can turn to passion pretty quickly as both are strong emotions.

A word uttered in silence or a glance over a crowded bar. A note scribbled in haste or a chance meeting in an elevator.

Thal

Or, a knife plunged into an unsuspecting back.  A libelous scrawl dispatched to the nearest newspaper.  Hate is certainly passion, but is it "love"?  Intensity is their only similarity.  Hate with passion is the foundation of sado-masochism, a perversion beloved by the Marquis de Sade.  Eschew it.  Or live on the fringes of civilized society.  As I do.  For different reasons, of course.  The outlaw is my brother.  The outlaw is the artist.

Viva la difference! 

[mukubella]

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[general disarray]

You might, very well, be completely deluded.

You speak as if love will rescue and free you.  It won't.  In fact, your obsession with this guy proves your attachment is only enslaving you. 

Do you actually believe that a lover will complete you?  Are you mad?  Are you so naive as to assume that there is some perfect match for you floating out there?  If so, you are an emotional infant.

You adore accomplished pianists?  Well, wake up and become that yourself. 

Life is about self-actualization.  It's not about puerile Romanticism.  Do you know what that word means?  It means "the unattainable ideal."

Snap out of it and take care of your own needs.  Some stupid man won't -- and can't -- do that for you.

Your whining posts about unrequited love would induce even Keats to clobber you.  Knock it off, please.  Your self-indulgent posts are inducing flatulence in me.

[mukubella]

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[a-sharp]

All you gotta do is return the favour then.

Thal

This is so well-put.

[general disarray]

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[db05]

Or, a knife plunged into an unsuspecting back.  A libelous scrawl dispatched to the nearest newspaper.  Hate is certainly passion, but is it "love"?  Intensity is their only similarity.  Hate with passion is the foundation of sado-masochism, a perversion beloved by the Marquis de Sade.  Eschew it.  Or live on the fringes of civilized society.  As I do.  For different reasons, of course.  The outlaw is my brother.  The outlaw is the artist.

Viva la difference! 

Viva la difference!

I have to agree with Thal on this one. Love and hate are both passion, two sides of the same coin. Hate is for those you find bad, and love for the good. Therefore, hate the sin but love the sinner. Masochism isn't the absence of love, but loving what is normally hated. You love pain.

I love artists as well. Sometimes this is misdirected as burning hate or romantic love. I realize that now.

[concerto_love]

u like your techeer?!?!?!? 

[db05]

u like your techeer?!?!?!? 

You just found out?
It's not "like". I looooooove my teacher. 

[concerto_love]

for honest, I like my teacher and someone here, aaww... 

[db05]

for honest, I like my teacher and someone here, aaww... 

You love me, love? 

[concerto_love]

No, not u.......................... cai knows it.................... yeah, only her.........

[db05]

No, not u.......................... cai knows it.................... yeah, only her.........

I was just joking. 

[concerto_love]

I bet u know... 

[db05]

I bet u know... 

Ack, I don't think I can trust that guy. He reminds me of my ex. 

[general disarray]

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[mukubella]

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[dnephi]

It's OK to find your teacher attractive, but if you or he/she/it make advances, say no!  Yuck yuck yuck yuck yuck.  Just wrong, and most probably illegal.

[maul]

Well said, mukubella. Someone just got owned.

[thalbergmad]

MuK fights back and lands a knockout blow.

Cutesy wootsy chick she is not.

Thal

[pianochick93]

Well said, mukubella. Someone just got owned.

Seconded.

[concerto_love]

Ack, I don't think I can trust that guy. He reminds me of my ex. 

Who's actually in your mind..? 

[db05]

That's our secret, love.  Don't think I should say it here...

[concerto_love]

That's our secret, love.  Don't think I should say it here...

ow, last letter, please 

[db05]

ow, last letter, please 

Just guessing... s?

[concerto_love]

Just guessing... s?

u got it...