Dating a pianist

[pianowolfi]

Is that all??

I was asked out 6 times before i even got to work.

Thal

By your alarm clock?

[pianistimo]

ahahahhahhhaaaa.  oh.  shhh. i hear thal.

[mukubella]

.

[richard black]

Well, speaking as a pianist who went so far as to marry a pianist, I'd say it could be worse. Quite frankly, the only ones who suffer are our neighbours now there are two pianos in the flat, often in simultaneous use.

But, you know, I think my wife-to-be (when she still was that) found my nerdy side more interesting than my piano-playing side. Possibly because she'd had it up to the neck with pianists during 4 or 5 years in conservatoire, of course...

[thalbergmad]

thalbergmad, have you ever heard the word 'friend.' 

Yes, but it is not a word i would use in your direction.

If you engaged in some tongue wrestling with wolfi it is you that has to live with it.

Did he taste of cheese?

Thal

[thalbergmad]

ahahahhahhhaaaa.  oh.  shhh. i hear thal.

I bet you didn't laugh when all his cuckoo clocks went off in the middle of the night.

Did he talk about them in his sleep?

Thal

[thalbergmad]

ahahahhahhhaaaa.  oh.  shhh. i hear thal.

Do you laugh at all your boyfriends jokes??

[mukubella]

.

[pianistimo]

guess there ARE a few here that are married to pianists.  i am quite happy with my husband knowing about music - and we can share that part to an extent.  however, i'm also happy that he doesn't play piano because i don't have to share the piano.  it's all to myself.  but, i can understand your facination - mukubella- to share it something that you love and learn from someone else.  a sort of built-in teacher (or not - since you could observe students etc).  that brings to mind a problem, though, also - since students would always be coming to the house and you'd have to be really flexible with concert schedules, etc.

thal, i don't quite understand why you insist that all women should fall head over heels with any pianist they come across.  apparrently, your style of friendship is different than mine.  anwyas - you never ASKED PIANOWOLFI did you?  i don't think he was thinking anything of the sort and was quite happy to meet my family and HUSBAND.  we did not go anywhere where there weren't a lot of people and didn't go out at night at all.  i picked him up in the morning so i have no idea what he does at night - and i know he would corroborate this.  you have to let people have their own privacy and lives.  if he chose to go out with someone in the evening - that would be not with me at my house with my family there.

[thalbergmad]

thal, i don't quite understand why you insist that all women should fall head over heels with any pianist they come across. 

And where have i mentioned this pea brain?

[thalbergmad]

i picked him up in the morning so i have no idea what he does at night

Spends all night winding up his clocks probably.

Why are you telling me all this?

If you have nothing to deny, why deny it?

Thal

[pianistimo]

ok.  i have a confession to make.  but, you have to keep it a secret.  i had HAD a similar crush to the one mukubella has  - on MY piano teacher/s.  probably every single one.  you get this piano lesson and you aren't quite done - but the hour is up.  now, i don't mean 'done' with THAT!  i mean done learning.  learning about music.  now...if one was married to a pianist = free lessons.  anytime.  just learning more about piano.

but, on the other hand - it would be like being in the army.  you cannot just relax.  you must constnatly be thinking about music.  my husband calms me down.  he just turns on the ballgame and i fall asleep.  we like being near each other  - like a cat and mouse - or something.  sometimes we spend a lot of time together - and other times he's reading books and i'm practicing.  we don't get in each other's way.  he would probably be very irritated if i followed him around all day just asking questions and wanting him to come look at my music , etc.

also, the fact that he is a vocalist makes me feel really important to him as his accompanist.  we have travelled a lot (esp the first 10 years of our marriage - we went all up and down the west coast to various churches along the coast) and got to where we could almost read each other's minds as to what we were going to do musically.  just on the spot - i could follow him if he stopped or started or whatever.  if he forgot anything (which he hardly ever did) i could 'cover' for him - and he for me.

[thalbergmad]

Stop wittering and answer my question.

[pianistimo]

what is the question?  and, what is this obsession you have for tonguing.  i don't even like kissing that way - so bugger off.

[thalbergmad]

Look back a few posts and answer my question you stupid tart

[mukubella]

.

[pianistimo]

maybe some of the concert pianists on this forum could tell you what they think about all day.  some of them might be irritated that anyone rang the doorbell period and would just wish that nobody came around at all.  guess you have to have a little black book and note his practice schedule/teaching schedule/and workout schedule - and plan to be near the workout schedule site.  just an idea.  it's been so long since i've dated that i couldn't give you any up-to-date advice.  

[thalbergmad]

I have had hundreds of people who have wanted to date me because of the way I look. 

Nothing like blowing your own trumpet.

I have had thousands.

Thal

[pianistimo]

of trumpets?

[thalbergmad]

it's been so long since i've dated

Understandable

[mukubella]

.

[pianistimo]

i really wish i could help.  thal keeps impeding my advices.  ok.  think think think  (no janet jackson accidents) hmm.  really, if you want a person to love you on your own merits - i guess you just have to become noticable as a pianist.  that means for the next 2 years you must only practice piano and become better than his best student.  shouldn't take you terribly long with the kind of motivation you have.

[thalbergmad]

i really wish i could help. 

You could try stopping posting

[mukubella]

.

[lina rose]

i wanna marry a musician that could teach me...

[pianochick93]

so bugger off.

  that just improved my mood so much. Thanks pianistimo.

[thalbergmad]

Yes, our resident happy clappy forgot she was supposed to be a Christian for a short while.

If she shot herself, that would improve my mood.

Thal

[thalbergmad]

Now if only I can quit being so nervous when I talk to him   hahaha

Fortune favours the brave. What have you got to be nervous about?

What is the worst thing he could say?

"Sod off i'm busy and i don't like you"

Would it be that bad?

Then you could ge back to one of the 200 other people that have asked you out.

You are making something that is so simple sound complicated.

Thal

[retrouvailles]

You are making something that is so simple sound complicated.

Women in a nutshell.

[thalbergmad]

A great truth retro.

Complicated and chemically unbalanced. Capable of multi-tasking but unable to complete one.

Thal

[mukubella]

.

[thalbergmad]

The time for action is upon you. The time for words is finished.

If you don't talk to the man, you will never find out. He might be a complete knobend and you have been getting yourself in a fluster about nothing.

Thal

[a-sharp]

Um - yeah - cheers to that!!

But piss off about the women generalizations, however.

I am no more capable of multitasking than well - a man, and I have managed to figure out how to complete things (albeit it's taken me years to figure that one out). We are not complicated, we are complex. Like, fine wine. 

(ps. he probably is a complete knobend. she should stop talking about it, make a move and get back to us after she's shagged him - fill us in on how he does.  )

[goldentone]

Once you've reached the confident, romantic plane that Thal
has come to, I think it is easy to forget how life is for the rest of the serfs.

[thalbergmad]

I am always happy to impart my knowledge about relationships, built up over years of failures.

Thal

[pies]

For thal, 'success' in a relationship means not eating the lady

[mukubella]

.

[thalbergmad]

For thal, 'success' in a relationship means not eating the lady

For pies "success" in a relationship means not eating the man.

[thalbergmad]

 But I suppose there are some things in life you just can't analyze too much

Well, nobody could accuse you of that. You have only written about 30 posts on him.

Thal

[thalbergmad]

Perhaps I will have to just go disappear into some Chopin.  

Suggest Henselt or Thalberg if you are in a romantic mood.

Thal

[mukubella]

.

[dnephi]

So you managed to blow your own horn thousands of times?  That's quite a feat!  I hear Marylin Manson had his top 3 ribs removed for that express purpose.

[ahinton]

I have never dated a pianist, so my only conceivable comment here is that I really cannot comment...

Best,

Alistair

[thalbergmad]

Back to Brahms though...

Well, that teutonic trash is not going to help you get into a romantic mood.

Thal

[a-sharp]

I have dated a pianist... it was *great* for a while - as he was more of a composer than a pianist, and me, not at all a composer and more of a pianist (albeit if times I only say I'm a wannabe) ... Although I loved him dearly (and still, on many levels do), sometimes I think we were bit to self-absorbed for us to be together. So... I can't say I'd do it again, or necessarily recommend it to anyone else - it would take a couple of very unique and highly evolved individuals. Better to seek out someone who will "ooh and aaah" over your playing for years to come.

[mukubella]

.

[thalbergmad]

this person completely randomly walked into my life from out of nowhere, and honestly blew me away.

All you gotta do is return the favour then.

Thal

[ahinton]

Michelangeli was born in 1920. According to certain calendars, he shared a birthday with Medtner, Pollini and Brendel.

Just thought that I'd drop in that on-topic comment about dating pianists...

Best,

Alistair

[thalbergmad]

I cannot think of any of my girlfriends (dead or alive) that had even a remote interest in the piano.

I did however go out with someone who was a fan of Culture Club, which i thought was a good enough reason to leave her pretty quickly.

Thal

[mukubella]

.