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Dating a pianist
on: July 31, 2008, 07:45:20 PM
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #1 on: July 31, 2008, 08:08:19 PM
You ever come to England baby, you got yourself a date.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #2 on: July 31, 2008, 08:37:15 PM
Come to sollefteċ and you will find one in 2 min. :o ;D
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #3 on: July 31, 2008, 09:07:00 PM
You ever come to England baby, you got yourself a date.
With whom? one cannot help but wonder; presumably not a certain inhabitant of Fin des Graves who is something of a virtuoso of the tenor banjo...

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #4 on: July 31, 2008, 09:08:18 PM
Plectrum banjo not tenor.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #5 on: July 31, 2008, 10:18:26 PM
this belongs on the thread 'best way to sabotage a pianist.'

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #6 on: July 31, 2008, 10:20:42 PM
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #7 on: July 31, 2008, 10:23:27 PM
well, let's just say it was a double-entendre.  you can take it either that thal would likely unrattle your nerves.  he calls all his girlfriends 'cows.'  if you can take that - you're mighty unusual.

ok. the other way - is that if - on the chance that you find a really hot pianist that is available - would you have two pianos in the house?  and, even if you did - it cuts practice time in half.  you can't really have two people practicing at the same time.

my advice is admire from afar - but stick to yourself.  beethoven did that, too!

ps i'm married to a vocalist - and love it! over the years we often perform together.  i guess pianists could do that too.  you'd have to really be connected to love to do EVERYTHING the other person does.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #8 on: July 31, 2008, 10:24:45 PM
If you don't like England you can come to North Carolina  8)

Yee Haw!!

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Re: Dating a pianist
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Re: Dating a pianist
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Reply #11 on: July 31, 2008, 10:33:50 PM
well, let's just say it was a double-entendre.  you can take it either that thal would likely unrattle your nerves.  he calls all his girlfriends 'cows.'  if you can take that - you're mighty unusual.
It's what in England they call the milk of human kindness, I think (and if you believe that, you'll believe anything!)...

ok. the other way - is that if - on the chance that you find a really hot pianist that is available - would you have two pianos in the house?  and, even if you did - it cuts practice time in half.  you can't really have two people practicing at the same time.
Well, I have two pianos - an 1896 Hamburg Steinway model C (now sadly hospitalised for major surgery) and a lovingly restored Mason & Hamlin baby grand from 1928 - but whatever temperature I may be, I am not a pianist, so that doesn't count, obviously...

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #12 on: July 31, 2008, 10:36:00 PM
i suppose i would get very upset that my significant other was better at the piano than i.   

Well, you would be under no threat from me.

Please do not take any notice of what that stupid religious woman says about me, she is no judge of character.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #13 on: July 31, 2008, 10:36:39 PM
If you don't like England you can come to North Carolina  8)
Biggest problem is that it's a mutual agreement.

That being said, one of the nicest people I've ever met was a Japanese doctoral piano student who was gorgeous.  Of course, she dated my good friend, the bassist.  (She was amazing, though- Barber Sonata, totally dominated!)
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #14 on: July 31, 2008, 10:37:31 PM
mukubella - you have a strange effect on these men.  even ahinton is a different temperature now.  i'd say your chances for marrying a pianist/composer are very great. 

ok - decide which one and then bait him.  i suppose if you don't let the relationship go too far (greatly advised in thal's case) - you can see what each one would offer you in a prenupital agreement.

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Reply #15 on: July 31, 2008, 10:38:14 PM
whatever - i'm going to be a hermit like beethoven.

Hardly a hermit.

He did not exactly live in a cave for 40 years living off bats.

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Reply #16 on: July 31, 2008, 10:41:53 PM
yes. actually he did.  did you ever see a picture of his 'immortal beloved.'  she was a sickly woman.

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Reply #17 on: July 31, 2008, 10:48:58 PM
(greatly advised in thal's case)

I can see no justification for that comment as thankfully we have never met. I am a romantic at heart although this would not normally surface on a public fora.

The only woman on this forum i can honestly say i have absolutely no time for is you, so you would be well advised to put a sock in it.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #18 on: July 31, 2008, 11:06:43 PM
afraid i'll hurt your chances? ok. what's in the pre-nup?  your long-bow?

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #19 on: July 31, 2008, 11:08:49 PM
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Reply #20 on: July 31, 2008, 11:16:58 PM
Move on and find another pianist to chase after if he doesn't like you back. Chances are that he isn't worth it. There are many other talented and attractive pianists in Los Angeles, heh.

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Reply #21 on: July 31, 2008, 11:33:59 PM
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #22 on: July 31, 2008, 11:36:55 PM
Move on and find another pianist to chase after if he doesn't like you back. Chances are that he isn't worth it. There are many other talented and attractive pianists in Los Angeles, heh.


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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #25 on: August 01, 2008, 12:14:19 AM
what happened to pierce brosnan?  oh well.  no matter.  there's always thal.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #26 on: August 01, 2008, 12:25:19 AM
Unless you want your heart to be crushed, I would suggest against it.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #27 on: August 01, 2008, 03:46:44 AM
what happened to pierce brosnan?  oh well.  no matter.  there's always thal.

Hey, I'm in Hilo on the Big Island and on dry land for a few days.

Pierce Brosnan.  Of course, no one will believe this, but I know him and his wife and two boys.  Their house in Haena on Kaua'i was near the cottage I rented here while docked in Hanalei.  He did "Mamma Mia" in London and Greece last year, got totally bummed out by the bad reviews, moved to Malibu and is there to get his boys a good education.  That's the scoop on Pierce.  He's a nice guy.  His wife, Keely, is a sweetie.  She hides from the press these days because of a few pesky pounds.  Svelte, she ain't.  Funny, smart and neat, she is.   

As for pianists, well, remember what Horowitz said.  There are three kinds:  Jewish, homosexual and bad.  If he's a bad pianist, you're not turned on by him.  If he's awkward and seems disinterested, well, guess what?  He's probably gay.  If he's Jewish, you're home free!  Go for it.  But, you might have to convert.   

But, you're in LA.  West Hollywood?  Be prepared.  Almost every guy there is gay.  Remember what Joan Rivers said about LA:  "It's so so gay out here, John Wayne was buried in a sun dress." 
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #28 on: August 01, 2008, 05:16:48 AM
But, you're in LA.  West Hollywood?  Be prepared.  Almost every guy there is gay.  Remember what Joan Rivers said about LA:  "It's so so gay out here, John Wayne was buried in a sun dress." 

Uh, have you ever been to LA? Not everyone is gay here, not even in West Hollywood. Sure, there are a lot more gays here than in many other cities, but there are more people in general than most other cities.

I have met many pianists who were straight and good, and not Jewish.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #29 on: August 01, 2008, 07:57:50 AM
i suppose there would be the possibility for jealousy as well - especially if there's a big difference in levels of training. 

Yes, it's actually quite a possible occurance. I'm dating a pianist and have been for 18 months, but back in the early days we had music class together and we ended up learning the same piece somehow. It turned out that we then felt awkard playing around each other for ages, which really isn't good.

And don't worry, you're not alone - I'm a hopeless (well, maybe not hopeless) romantic as well.
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Reply #30 on: August 01, 2008, 11:12:54 AM
ok.  add that to the list.  playing the same piece.

general disarray - i was going to respond to your kind but provacative gesture of letting me know exactly where you are right now.  remember, i'm married.  and, we don't want thal getting jealous.  you know what he's like when he's jealous. 

if you are 20, i'd be robbing the cradle anyways.  i'm 47.  and proud of it (i might add).  the last few years, i've made a turnaround.  when i turned fourty i got majorly depressed.  you know - mid-life crisis.  i thought that now i was officially 'old.'  but, despite gravity and all - i've had quite a few guys tell me that i look young.  i'm realizing now that a smile is probably the best anti-aging medicine.  and, my husband keeps me feeling young.  he is very kind and sweet, too.

anyways, you cheered me up.  didn't know you personally knew pierce brosnan.  i guess i read about his 'mama mia' movie and thought that it was a hit from reading reader's digest.  well, that goes to show that they might have needed a leading lady that was younger than him ad not older.  *maybe this is a hint for you?! i hope you find the woman of your dreams and someone who can swim.  i cannot really swim very well (don't tell).  in fact, i once took swimming lessons and had to be rescued by the instructor when he forced us to go off the diving board.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #31 on: August 01, 2008, 11:37:04 AM
afraid i'll hurt your chances?

Listen, Pontius Pa, you would have absolutely no affect on my chances.

I am just being cheeky to a girl on this forum, so kindly take your beads and go and juggle them at someone else.

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Reply #32 on: August 01, 2008, 11:44:49 AM
beads?  what beads are we talking about.  i have no beads.

beads are a way to remember.  i don't need that kind of help quite yet.  i mean if i pray once, do i really need to know when it's the second or third time.  are we limited to a certain number?  maybe i don't understand prayer beads.

i was just warning mukubella about you.  no need to worry.  if you are as upright and upstanding as you pretend to be, you'll be hiding mental martin in a closet when she visits. 

you think i don't know anything about you.  well, let me tell you a thing or two...hmmm...let's see where shall we start.  maybe we should start with that picture of your dear mother.  you never told us what happened to her.

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Reply #33 on: August 01, 2008, 01:10:59 PM
I can sooooooo relate to this. It would be nice to date someone who played another instrument, but I already shifted from guitar to piano... And students here are mostly either piano or guitar. Nothing against classical guitarists, but half of the time they're just frustrated shredders, and I'm tired of that type. One moment, they're talking about Bach and the next, it's Malmsteen. ::) Can't hold a decent conversation.

Sure, I'd date a banjo player. IF I come across one (in the real world)  ;).
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Reply #34 on: August 01, 2008, 02:16:53 PM

general disarray - i was going to respond to your kind but provacative gesture of letting me know exactly where you are right now.  remember, i'm married.  and, we don't want thal getting jealous.  you know what he's like when he's jealous. 

if you are 20, i'd be robbing the cradle anyways. 
:'(   (I'm going back to my boat . . . for good.)

Uh, have you ever been to LA? Not everyone is gay here, not even in West Hollywood. Sure, there are a lot more gays here than in many other cities, but there are more people in general than most other cities.

I have met many pianists who were straight and good, and not Jewish.

Been to LA, retro.  Many times.  Just kidding -- on all counts.   ;D


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Reply #37 on: August 01, 2008, 06:00:19 PM
i'm beginning to think that, too!  thanks for the encouragement.  i didn't have a problem with age when i married my husband (he's 16 years older).  often, people say - men age well anyways.  it's probably true - but he looks the same to me as the day we married.  only his hair has turned from grey to white.  he is the same type of energetic person - too.

i think for women you have to learn to take time for yourself.  to not be ashamed to take naps sometimes.  and, to keep learning, as you said.  to practice self-restraint (don't want to act or dress like a teenager) and yet lose control when you're with that special person. 

today, i went to the doctor with my son (i had the insurance card) and this 40 something lady comes in with really short shorts and almost stilletto heels.  hmmm.  i don't think that makes this age look young.  it has to be more subtle. 

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Reply #38 on: August 01, 2008, 06:40:33 PM
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Reply #39 on: August 01, 2008, 07:37:32 PM
you think i don't know anything about you.  well, let me tell you a thing or two...hmmm...let's see where shall we start.  maybe we should start with that picture of your dear mother.  you never told us what happened to her.

No, you don't know anything about me, but i know a few things about you.

You are a pea brained, sandal wearing, blinkered, bible bashing, god bothering, forum trolling, jesus freaking, scientist bashing, fundamentalist pond creature.

My mother is Ok thanks. How is pianowolfi? Have you finished the game of tonsil tennis yet?

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #40 on: August 01, 2008, 08:01:40 PM
Beethoven wasn't THAT reclusive, by what I've read he was always dedicating his music and proposing to every foxy noble babe he met.  They reply "ho hummmm... wellll I'm uhhhh...  don't speak German. Gotta go!" (what a weirdo). :P

Usually people guess me to be 5-10 years older.  I don't even try to guess a womans age.  Not by appearances anyways.

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Reply #41 on: August 01, 2008, 09:25:44 PM
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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #42 on: August 01, 2008, 09:33:38 PM
He was also arrested for vagrancy.

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Reply #44 on: August 01, 2008, 09:50:54 PM
Beethoven rules.

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Re: Dating a pianist
Reply #46 on: August 01, 2008, 10:12:55 PM
4th time it's happened since I got here this morning.


Is that all??

I was asked out 6 times before i even got to work.

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Reply #47 on: August 01, 2008, 10:47:43 PM
thalbergmad, have you ever heard the word 'friend.' 

talk to pianowolfi - ask him. 






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Reply #48 on: August 01, 2008, 11:19:05 PM
thalbergmad, have you ever heard the word 'friend.' 

talk to pianowolfi - ask him.




He will ask how many cuckoo clocks I have. ;D

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Reply #49 on: August 01, 2008, 11:22:55 PM
I have never dated a pianist, so cannot comment.

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