Virginity

[zheer]

I dont want to get into trouble, so this question is stricktly for those ove 16 years of age.
        Haw old were you when you broke you virginity, since it is unlikly that anyone on this forum is likly to ever meet ( apart from bob and mayla) be honest.
         I was 18 and it was crap, however one does improve with age. Go on make us laugh and keep it clean.
        If you are 40 years of age well then when was your first kiss.

[lisztisforkids]

I was 16. She told me before she wasent going to have sex until she was married. So it was a big surprise when it happened. I remeber now: She sat in chair after it was over and started to cry, and took off her promise ring to her mother and god and gave it me. So began my journey into the deepest pits of hell and ecstasy with this girl.Marriage or no Mariage after that it was like whenever and wherever we got the chance. Yeah at first the sex was great. But then came the consequences: Extreme jealosuy, depression, 2 pregnancys, and a whole lot of attachement and tears.

[stevie]

hahaha, i have randomly chose to abstain until marriage

[zheer]

hahaha, i have randomly chose to abstain until marriage

   Do you mean women have randomly chosen to stay away from you. What if you marry when you are 75.

[zheer]

. But then came the consequences: Extreme jealosuy, depression, 2 pregnancys, and a whole lot of attachement and tears.

   
    I hope things are a little better now.

[lisztisforkids]

 I hope things are a little better now.

Yes, things are better now. Now I am 18 and have a whole lot more expierence. But I am still very young and have a lot of learning to do. And sometimes bad and good memory's come back to haunt me.

[BoliverAllmon]

I will let you know when I lose it. hasn't happened yet, won't til marriage.

[prometheus]

I abstain in general. I am 22. Its the only way to get a serious and deep relationship with a woman without a gambling attempt.

[zheer]

Hey ,i respect those who wait before they are married, however the world has changed, i saw a program not too long ago, i was amazed at the amount of 13-15 year old's bracking their virginity, it's very sad. It is unlikly that your other half will be a virgin on the wedding day.

[thalbergmad]

I am 40 and have yet to lose my virginity.

I am a misoginist and English girls are tarts.

[Floristan]

I am 40 and have yet to lose my virginity.

I am a misoginist and English girls are tarts.

ROFL 

[BoliverAllmon]

Hey ,i respect those who wait before they are married, however the world has changed, i saw a program not too long ago, i was amazed at the amount of 13-15 year old's bracking their virginity, it's very sad. It is unlikly that your other half will be a virgin on the wedding day.

oh but she is. I have standards.

[stevie]

hahaha, as does she, shes marrying you!
hahahahahahaha bet she cant wait to open up your trousers and play 'SPOT THE WEENIE'!

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

ok

[pianistimo]

aunt edith speaking here - seriously, boliver is on the right track.  no one to be compared with but him.  (and her). 

for some reason i like watching 'the wedding planner' (probably to get ideas for when my daughters marry someday) and one idea was cool.  pre-wedding dinner, the bride and groom bring their pics of old girlfriends/boyfriends - and take a pair of scissors with bow on it - and snip them all in half.  then, one of the groomsmen holds out the decorated trash can or offers a lighter to finish the job.

if i had known what elation there was to getting married to the right person, i would have slapped anyone who tried anything but a kiss on the cheek.  when a girl walks down the aisle in a WHITE dress it's supposed to symbolize something.  of course, now there are a variety of colors - i saw a RED one the other day on the same show.  her mother thought it was beautiful, but i thought - this is a travesty.

keep las vegas mindset out of your head the night before, too!  i think it's terrible if a guy thinks he has to have a stripper at his bachelor party.  how much can a wife shock her husband if he's seen it on tv?  no need for strippers.  and, same for women.  no need for chippendale's if you've married the right man.  spend your money on lingerie for each other.

i had my first REAL boyfriend at 16.  my mother was right.  he was trouble.  she kept telling me to break it up - but i was his girlfriend for 1 1/2 years.  my parents were and are religious - so this was tantamount to almost leaving the house - which i think was threatened by one or the other of us.  but, i realized the prospects of being married to a teenager and broke it off after a while.  my husband, on the other hand was more careful and still had not married at 40.  i was shocked he wasn't married before or had any major girlfriends.  God is always right - and i think there's a blessing to considering your future mate when you are dating. 

i hope my children will be careful.  talking with them a lot seems to make sense.  i buy my daughter real jewelry each birthday and tell her never to rely on a guy to buy her things for her affection.  her dad takes her out to the movies a lot (once or twice a month) and i think she would respect his opinion because they have a good relationship.  i try to do the same with my son...and sometimes take him out to breakfast.  we dont' always talk about this, but sometimes i warn him about his responsibilities in life.  i tell him that he doesn't need garnished wages.  and, occasionally we joke about things and i try to answer his questions.  i think parents can help ease tensions by maintaining open dialoge.  i hope this happens with my kids (that they can tell me anything). 

[contrapunctus]

I think society promoting things that say virginity is not important is one of the worse things about the modern age. No Civility or decency anymore.

[lisztisforkids]

I think society promoting things that say virginity is not important is one of the worse things about the modern age. No Civility or decency anymore.

 

I think are cocnception of sex these days is also very wrong, but for different reasons than yours. In the old days, sex was all hush hush, and tiptoed around and was thought to be a very bad and indecent thing. Now this conception of sex is wrong. Sex is a very wonderful and blissful thing. I have heard people say that we all need to be open about are sexual desires and sex in general. I agree with this. But what most of these people dont understand is that we are living in the most open and sex oriented society to date. Just turn on the TV. Almost everything has sex in it , commercials, music videos anything. And TV and movies just keep pushing what can be seen on the screen and accepted. We are indulging ourselves in the wrong kind of sex, the unhealthy and vile kind of sex, not the loving and special kind that comes from 2 people that love each other.
Girls gone wild: Makes me sick what were getting shoved in our brains these days.

Personal expiernce: I had a girlfriend, and we loved each other, and yes we had sex. But it meant something, I felt something. Once I had a one night stand at a party(we were sober), I felt disgusted with myself, she enjoyed it but I dident. She only cared about the sex, I wanted more.... I became deppressed about this. And I realized how special that sex really is and why it shouldent be abused. Deceny is a matter of perspective, whats right and wrong we know in our heart. (sorry to be corny)

[lagin]

I am 20 years old, and have never been kissed!  Lol, seriously I haven't.  I'm saving sex and (yes, I know, I'm wierd) even that "serious" kissing till the honeymoon.  I say, if a guy is willing to do that for me, then he must definately be one swell dude.  If a guy "needs" to make out with me before that, then he obviously is being a little self focused, in my opinion, anyway.  And I don't want anyone as a boyfriend that doesn't respect my boundaries.   

[ted]

Thirty-three, after our marriage. I had no particular axe to grind morally and was not without normal desires. I just had a mind of my own and chose what to do and what not to do. I am no better and no worse than those who chose otherwise. I did have a jolly sight fewer complications than my friends when I was young though.

Sex is very nice in its place, but it is neither necessary nor sufficient for happiness.

[BoliverAllmon]

I am 20 years old, and have never been kissed!  Lol, seriously I haven't.  I'm saving sex and (yes, I know, I'm wierd) even that "serious" kissing till the honeymoon.  I say, if a guy is willing to do that for me, then he must definately be one swell dude.  If a guy "needs" to make out with me before that, then he obviously is being a little self focused, in my opinion, anyway.  And I don't want anyone as a boyfriend that doesn't respect my boundaries.   

I know a couple that did that as well. It turned out wonderful. Don't lose track of that mindset.

[mycrabface]

I am 40 and have yet to lose my virginity.

I am a misoginist and English girls are tarts.

You should watch the forty year old virgin..

[zheer]

Sorry everyone, i ment vinaigtrette not virginity. Intresting reply though.

[gilad]

i had vinaigrette in public once, it was kinky:)

[crazy for ivan moravec]

connect... 

so i guess the next question is whether anyone here had vinaigrette (served on the skin!) when you lost your virginity? hehehe

[pianistimo]

huh?  i don't even know what a mysnoginist is.  now this?  have to google again.  viniagrette sounds different than vinagrette.  viniagrette sounds like a german girl in vintage clothing. 

don't you hate 'telling all' only to have people laugh at your tears.  zheer, this is what oprah is about.  last night, they had hard core gamblers on.  one lady told that she was having to pay $500. per month for 100 years to pay off a $130,000. debt.  who in their right mind is going to say that on national tv unless they want to help someone.  another lady owed $60,000.  my first reaction was, 'lady, didn't you sort of feel bad when you hit $1000.?')  but, i suppose sex, gambling, and drugs are all addictive behaviours.

i've never seen a viniagrette addict, though.  hmmm.  ok.  lets say it's salad dressing.  do they pour it unconditionally liberally over salad without remorse?   

[6ft 4]

I get the impression for most peeps here "abstaining" is merely an excuse for ther unfortunate failings with members of the opposite sex (note/edit: this only applies to males everyone knows girls cud get laid easy as pie if they really wanted)

And if thats not the case then wat the hell?? ur missing out big time this is the modern age for peets sake sex really doesnt mean *** all.

[zheer]

Thats very intresting 6ft 4,  but what has that got to do with salad dressing of oil and vinegar.

[BoliverAllmon]

I get the impression for most peeps here "abstaining" is merely an excuse for ther unfortunate failings with members of the opposite sex

And if thats not the case then wat the hell?? ur missing out big time this is the modern age for peets sake sex really doesnt mean *** all.

sex does mean alot. it is a very personal and intimate action invovling another person whom you love and adore. There is alot more to it than driving the limo down the tunnel.

boliver

[stevie]

sex does mean alot. it is a very personal and intimate action invovling another person whom you love and adore. There is alot more to it than driving the limo down the tunnel.

boliver

SING IT BROTHA!!!

6ft 4 is obviously aware that there are many sluts out there, that almost any guy could 'get laid' within a week if they really wanted to.

the point is, do you want to *** around with some street-ho, or wait till youve made sure youve found that special one for you, and then give away your innocence and the intimate sheet.

i have high standards 

[zheer]

SING IT BROTHA!!!

6ft 4 is obviously aware that there are many sluts out there, that almost any guy could 'get laid' within a week if they really wanted to.

   Give me 2 hours and i can find one, she will think she has been F**** by 48 different men at once. But know i wont do that.

[6ft 4]

6ft 4 is obviously aware that there are many sluts out there, that almost any guy could 'get laid' within a week if they really wanted to

honestly if u dont count chavs and hookers thats complete bullshit.

[e60m5]

6ft 4, I find it unfortunate that you equate abstinence with failure regarding the opposite sex.

Boliver and pianistimo have it right. I happened to lose mine far too young and to the wrong person. Now I'm wishing that I could go back and undo what I did, but there's no way for me to do so. That's always going to be between me and my (future) wife - I only hope that she can forgive me for my own foolishness. It's going to be me and her who have to live with the consequences of my mistake.

I've decided to abstain now, but it's definitely not for my failure regarding the opposite sex. If sex really "doesn't mean **** at all", then sorry, but we evidently have different values.

For those who haven't lost it - you only have it once and can only lose it once. Think about it.

[etudes]

For those who haven't lost it - you only have it once and can only lose it once. Think about it.

i like this sentence! still keep it till now!

[allchopin]

I realize the opportunities of both sides- life is short and go out and have a blast, however, you have to know your boundaries.  I personally believe it is something more special than a 'blast' you are having (no grounds for this claim, obviously, just opinion).  I have had ample opportunity but have chosen not to, and I feel better for it.  If anything, I like to be in the minority and have avoided something so many people have done (this goes for drinking, swearing, etc.)  Wow, I'm old-fashioned 

[prometheus]

I get the impression for most peeps here "abstaining" is merely an excuse for ther unfortunate failings with members of the opposite sex

And if thats not the case then wat the hell?? ur missing out big time this is the modern age for peets sake sex really doesnt mean *** all.

Sex means as much as you want it to mean. I don't really understand. What would I gain from picking up some girl and having sex with her? And why would I want to have sex with one of my best friends? Furthermore, I don't really feel like bragging how sexy I am, or how well I interact with females, or how much I have to reject woman and how able I am to lay them off smoothly without hurting them our the possible friendschip... I don't have to defend my views against random people on a piano forum. For all you know I really am a total loser.

I also do not understand the whole deal about virginity? What does it matter? Say I go out an have sex with a random girl tomorrow, losing my virginity. Then what? Does it matter? Have I lost anything? Is sex better if it is your first time? Or is it more special? Why?

For all those people who think they did made a mistake regarding their sex lives. Sure, if you think it was a mistake it probably was. So what? You have only lost something if you believe you did. I don't see how this mistake can hurt the future.

As for the sluts story, if we regard all the abstaining people as nerds, they probably are even better at making a girl feel special and 'seducing' her than they are at getting laid in one day. I could probably manipulate the right girl to do anything. But what would I gain from that?

Lets face the hard challenge. Finding a partner and make it work out and last. most relationships don't turn into marriages. And Most marriages fail.
If a person is unable to 'get laid', what does it matter? Like we are all able to find the right person without any failure or pure luck involved. Many people won't do any better than this person 'too stupid and ugly' to 'get laid'. Do notice that the most ugly and stupid people do get married. And some probably have happier marriages than some of us.

[gilad]

i'm ugly and stupid, so i hope you're right:D

I havent had an easy time of being sexually liberal. i'm pretty uptight and cheap sex was ingrained in my head as bad when i was young whether i like that or not. i'm not screwing around anymore with women, i want someone that isn't only skin deep, i'm not entirely about drives and instincts. i wasn't impressed with the last girl i was with, she was an animal, i felt like a dildo, it was quite degrading. for me sex=love, trust, sincerity.
i love vinegar on fries.

[6ft 4]

i dunno sex is kinda fun meh i'll change when i grow up no doubt

[paris]

i'm 17 and i don't feel any pressure. maybe because of conservative family influence or something else, i want to do it with the one i really love and who can love me despite my all flaws and imperfections. i'm proud of myself cos of that and i don't think its a ''failure''. if i wanted to, i could do it with some random guy on saturday night like most of people i know. i was appaled by the one headline in our newspapers, ''14-year old couple became parents'' ! wasted youth IMO

[thalbergmad]

i'm 17 and i don't feel any pressure. maybe because of conservative family influence or something else, i want to do it with the one i really love and who can love me despite my all flaws and imperfections. i'm proud of myself cos of that and i don't think its a ''failure''. if i wanted to, i could do it with some random guy on saturday night like most of people i know. i was appaled by the one headline in our newspapers, ''14-year old couple became parents'' ! wasted youth IMO

Why don't we be both "lose it" together.

You will have to shave the beard off though.

[etudes]

Why don't we be both "lose it" together.

You will have to shave the beard off though.

.......... together 

[Jacey1973]

I was 16, with my first long term boyfriend. It was great, i don't regret it...and am still close to him even thought we're not together anymore.

[jbmajor]

People put too much emphasis on age and virginity.  If they're secure with themselves, why are they so worried about how much action everyone else is getting and at what age?

40 Year Old Virgin was funny, btw. 

[I Love Xenakis]

hahaha, i have randomly chose to abstain until marriage

I don't think "chose" is the proper term here.





Oh and 15.

[mycrabface]

Its true that the world's moral is going down nowadays and people don't have any shame. Just imagine hoe many underage sex is going on right now. Ohya a bit out of point, but the word f*** stands for fornication under the consent of the king. last time civilians had to get a permission slip signed by the king and have it pasted outside on the door when they were having sex. Anyway why is sex so sought after. its not even that important. crazy people.

[thalbergmad]

Further to my previous post, i might not be a virgin after all.

I had a blow up doll when i was 21.

Eventually, it went down on me.

[zheer]

I once made a women orgasm without even touching her privat part. She was 7 years older than me.

[leahcim]

Ohya a bit out of point, but the word f*** stands for fornication under the consent of the king. last time civilians had to get a permission slip signed by the king and have it pasted outside on the door when they were having sex.

Yeah right  Make sure you get your standard inscribed legal letter yielding copulation until night terminates sign. Assuming you're in one of the 32 states that require it.

[thalbergmad]

Ohya a bit out of point, but the word f*** stands for fornication under the consent of the king.

I thought it stood for "for unlawful carnal knowledge".

[Siberian Husky]

i lost it when i was 17......i actually regret it

[gruffalo]

im 17, and I use abstination as m excuse  .
i dont know but it might be to do with the fact that i cant hold down a relationship longer than 3 weeks.

anways, sex used to be a something that i would really long for but i didnt bother much when i was with a girl but the prospect was nice. however now,i dont want to just have sex with any girl but at the same time i dont want to wait till marriage.

[pianistimo]

gruffalo, i thought you were older because you seem very mature in many of your points.  why accept blindly the idea that having sex before marriage makes you more appealing.  what is appealing to a woman getting married is both partners having a decent blood test and not giving her/him a disease.  if you expect that from her...why not expect it from yourself.  check out the repercussions from any venereal disease first.  then, consider what you want to do.  condoms break.  people aren't always careful when they think they are in love.  if you really want to wait - don't worry about not 'holding a relationship.'  just 'hold friendships' til the right person comes your way.  prepare your 'nest' so to speak.  your education, finances, and learning about what makes relationships last.  become friends with some married couples as well as singles.  they can spot potential problems in people you date.

sex is similar to gambling, i think, because you don't know what the outcomes will be for several years.  even though people feel 'lucky' they didn't get pregnant or get a disease - there is also the health benefit of your mind.  you can think clearly and not be mislead by hormones.  the woman of your attraction at 17 might not be who you want to be married to.